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Report with Courage

Posted: 11/7/2011

My name is Katie, and I was a target of bullying all of my life except for my Senior year this year.

It had gone from "You're a Geek!" to "Hey Katie wanna go out with me?" And then after a few days the boy "Broke up" with me and then bullied me. From then on it went to two girls in my math class. I asked to use the restroom and the blonde girl yelled across the room "Why does SHE get to go? She's a ________!" and when i went to the restroom, and I stayed in the restroom for a few more minutes and cried until one of the teachers came and asked me whats wrong. I told her my story and she told the special ed teacher to bring me down to the office and tell the principal about the bullying going on in class.

And the Principal talked to the Main principal about the bullying and they both said that they would take care of it. And one of my friends brought my things down to the office and said "Katie, the main teacher didn't write a white card but the hearing aide teacher did, I hope you have a good rest of the day."

This year the bullying stopped because I kept on reporting without being afraid.

Do What I did. Report the bullying with courage!

By: Katie

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Finding Myself

Posted: 11/7/2011

I was in 6th grade. People would write things on the bathroom walls about me. I saw a note on the ground in from of my locker saying "nobody wants you alive". I was scared. I started cutting myself and I started barely eating anything. On the bus all the seats would be filled up except the one next to me. The bus driver would say "sit with her" and he would say "I would never sit with that"

People told me to die and one time I thought about running away. I packed my stuff together but I couldn't do it, I would stay loyal to my family. It stopped for a while but got worse in 7th grade when i transferred to a different school. I got pushed down the stairs and shoved in the halls. I would see comments on the internet about how ugly and fat i was. And that was when it hit me.

I started getting into a depression and i never came out of my room. One day at school i was thinking bout hurting myself when i would get home that evening and a  girl came up to me and said hi. No one had really talked to me in almost 3 months and that one word, HI, it stopped me from everything - the pain, the dread, the worries, everything.

We are friends to this day.

Don't be a bystander, because it happens to everyone.

What if it was you?

By: Christyna

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Just Like All the Other Kids Do

Posted: 11/4/2011

My name is Ryan and I have been a target for the past year of bullying. 

I started high school and was mistaken for another kid and attacked by two seniors. 

They were charged in court but the school administration did nothing, after I was attacked these two boys and their friends bullyed me for another 5 months. My mom and I continued to report it, but they did nothing. In fact the boys that bullyed melaughed at me and said "no one gives a ___ about you, they don't care ____."

Now we don't report it anymore because it causes more trouble than good.  Those two boys graduated but they still have friends at the school and it has gotten so bad that I am quitting school. I have had alot of suicidal thoughts. My family and myself decided after almost a year of this I should just quit. 

We plead with the County Board of Education to allow me to move to another school and they continually turned us down even with three doctors recommendations that I should be moved out of the school. They still said no.

I really do not want to have to quit school. I want to go to school and have friends and work on projects, go to football games,the prom just like all other kids do. But, I guess I just can do that stuff.  I am completely mentally broken at this point and can not take it anymore

I feel like I am about to snap on someone at that school and I need to remove myself from this situation before I get in trouble.  The biggest problem I have had is the administration at the school. They are just as bad, if not worse than the kids who bully me.

By: Ryan in NC

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Good Advice

Posted: 11/4/2011

Feel picked on? here are some tips that will help you deal with the problem:

Find support from another, more positive group of people not associated with the people picking on you. Make sure they are positive supportive people and spend time with them doing things you love.

Limit or eliminate contact with those who are picking on you.

Find a professional counselor or organization online or by phone that can help you. Usually these are anti-bullying organizations. You can contact them and they can help you find someone to talk with.

Take care of yourself. Eat right and exercise as this will improve your overall health.

Tell your friends and family what is happening to you and write it down so that you can prove that someone is picking on you if you can and show this to an adult if you are under 18.

Ask the person to stop directly and politely the first and second times they do this. Talk to them directly and ask them politely to stop. If that doesn’t work, tell someone who can help you and bring them in as a witness only if you feel physicially safe to do this.

Find other sources of positive activities, things, and people. Instead of focusing on your problems, talk to new friends about your interests and activities and find out about theirs.  Talk about your problems with a counselor, teacher, or other trust-worthy adult or peer to which you know you can confide.

Educate yourself on what healthy and unhealthy relationships should feel and be like and follow those guidelines when you build and maintain relationships to keep relationships strong and healthy. You can also improve your social skills if you don’t feel socially confident by reading books and learning from reliable sources on the internet. Developing your confidence will help you make new healthy friendships and maybe defend against problem relationships.

Vent. Sometimes venting stress to a close friend or other person in your life will help you release the stress of the event, but try not to repeatedly replay one incident in your mind. If you are being picked on, the bullying is NOT your fault.  Bullies like to put the blame on the person they are picking on so don’t let them make you feel like it is your fault or your inferior to them.

Step in if it is safe to do so if you see someone being bullied. Side with the person being picked on and say something positive about them to the bully.

Use the situation to make a change. Sometimes the situation is negative. Take the bully’s comment or the situation and let it teach you what you need to change if there is any validity to the message behind the comment. There, though, is a difference between critism, constructive critism, and bullying. Learn about these and notice the differences if these occur.

Remind yourself of your positive traits if someone picks on you and stand up for yourself without attacking the other person.

Try to be kind the first time. Sometimes people don’t realize that their comments/actions are hurtful or how they come across to you. Politely tell them how you felt about the situation and then say that you would really like (what situation change) in its place.

Always find someone to speak with confidentially about the situations so you don’t deal with bullying by yourself. They could help you find ways to deal with the situation.

Do not give up. Situations pass and things will change for the positive and you will find a better situation.

By: Casey H.

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Tell A Teacher You Trust At School

Posted: 10/18/2011

Hi all - I'm a high school math teacher, and I was bullied often in middle school, mostly because I cared more about success and my grades than being popular. I remember coming home from school crying to my mom because someone wrote For a good time, call (my phone number) inside a bathroom stall - in the GIRL'S bathroom! With the help of some great teachers, my true friends, and family, I grew up to be proud of the person that I am, and to not let what other people say hurt me. Music and theatre was my outlet and I found acceptance there. Now I am married to an amazing man and have wonderful friends who love me for me - especially for my dorky and weird side! Just want to encourage anyone who feels bullied to TELL A TEACHER YOU TRUST AT SCHOOL! I would hate to know that I could have helped one of my students in an awful situation and not have the opportunity - although we look for signs of bullying there is so much we don't see.

By: Alison

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A Mile

Posted: 10/18/2011

Walk a mile in my shoes;
I bet you'll trip and fall.
You may know my name,
but do you know me at all?
Be me for a day;
See what I see,
do what I do,
and when it's too overwhelming
will you be able to pull through?
You may think you know my every flaw,
you think you have it right,
but soon you'll realize:
You can't even fight MY fight.
You may stereotype me;
Call me what you want,
but who are you to criticize;
To run around and flaunt?
I'm a person like you
with my own ways of dealing
and in the process of finding ourselves,
we find ways of healing.
So walk a mile in my shoes,
and I bet you'll trip and fall.
You may think you know me,
But you don't know me at all.

By: Kate

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Ancient History

Posted: 10/17/2011

I used to be a bully. I was horrible to so many kids and I used the excuse of having bad things happening in my life, not realizing that the kids that I bullied could have some bad things happening in their lives as well.

I learned about a kid’s life that I bullied. And it was horrible. It sucks now that I look back and know that I just added more pain. Once I figured it out, I wrote him a letter telling him how sorry I was.

Fortunately to this day he and I are friends. I feel so lucky that he forgave me. Now I am a completely different person and if you ask my peers at school they would say I am the sweetest kid they know.

I want to help the bullied and those that bully. I stand up for kids who are picked on and I will leave my lunch table and go sit with someone that is sitting by themselves even though it not what everyone else is doing. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE BULLIED.

And for those that bully, I ask that you try to put yourself in that kid's shoes and wonder what they have to deal with at school AND HOME. Hopefully when we all get older we can just tell our kids about how people USED TO BE bullied because they were different or an easy target and say that we are glad THAT IT NO LONGER EXISTS.

Hopefully one day this will all be ancient history. For the bullied kids I want you to know that you are loved and cared for and that it will stop. Try your hardest to stay strong. Peace luv rock-n-roll.

By: Marie

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It's Not Fair

Posted: 10/17/2011

My sister and I have always been kind of awkward and odd people. However, we are treated very differently among our peers. In high school, I was the sweet girl that everyone liked. I was awkward and goofy and I think people thought I was unique and they loved that about me. I always had friends and I was always smiling. I don't ever remember being unhappy.

My sister was the happiest little kid. She was always smiling. It was't until middle school when she started to all of a sudden express sadness through her clothing. She only wore black. That was supposedly her favorite color. My mom would watch her walk home some days and some kids would pick on her. She is the out spoken girl and awkward and goofy, but kids didn't like that about her. In high school the bullying became secretive. Girls used the website FORMSPRING.com as easy access to bully her. They would call her anorexic, annoying and so on. Once girls in high school felt they could get stomp on my sister even more, they used Facebook.com as a way to bully her. They would torment her. At school, they would trip her.

My sister and I have the same personalities. My peers embraced my personality. Her peers, they have bullied her into the hospital. My sister was diagnosed with depression and was rushed to the hospital due to cutting herself several times deeply. She is currently in a rehab facilitation.

What satisfaction do people get out of bullying? Is it fun? I will never understand.

By: Anonymous

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What Makes You Better Than Me?

Posted: 10/17/2011

You girls act so cool,
Really who are you trying to fool?
What makes you better than me?
NOTHING as far as I can see.

Truthfully, in ways we are all the same,
But here's the difference to you life's a game.
That's why it's my goal to make it far,
And for you I bet I see you again, Alone in a bar

I'm tired of the laughing in my face
And I'm tired of the rumors but in that case
I was stronger than you all thought,
Never were you sorry, maybe when you got caught.

Sorry forgive me if this seems rude,
But dealing with all of you, I'm not in to good of a mood.
Go ahead laugh now I really don't see whats funny,
Get a life and leave mine alone,
instead of worrying about me find a job and make some money.

By: Amy

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MOVING ON

Posted: 10/17/2011

Maybe if it didn't last so long, I wouldn't be so mad.
The number of you girls kept growing and I know how to add.
It was really pathetic, No let's call it sad.
The way you all stood outside my house in hoards,
Didn't you guys ever get bored.?

I never thought I did anything wrong,
I was just hanging out and trying to get along.
But I guess my  was already chosen for me.
You all knocked me down so I could learn to pick myself back up,
And reach the best me I could ever be.

It didn't take me long, although I sure thought it would.
I knew I'd figure it out I knew I could.
Now I'm starting my climb to the top
Enjoying watching all your mouths drop.

By: Amy

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MOVING ON

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