Make sure the focus stays on the child.

Be prepared by knowing in advance the important points to discuss and questions to ask. Then write down the points and questions and check them off as they are addressed.

Listen. Listening helps gather information about the child and understanding of other viewpoints.

State issues clearly. It is important to communicate in a honest and clear manner.

Ask questions. Asking questions can be an effective way of clarifying a point and keeping the line of communication open.

Direct comments and questions to the person who can best address or answer them.

Restate concerns if not heard the first time.