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my only child, a daughter, was bullied throughout school beginning in 5th grade.  I remember this because of a comment made by her teacher at the time who had taught  this grade for several years and had two older daughters of her own.  She said, "With girls, this is when begins."  I highly respect her, I only wish she could've told me when it ends.  Together, my daughter and I fought "city hall".  I met with teachers, principals, district superintendents, legislaters and ,quite often, state police.  I emailed the PA Dept of Education along with excerpts of threats from IM  More often than not, I was told I was making a "big deal" out of nothing.  That this is JUST part of growing up.  The district super told me  that barging into a staff meeting was 'terribly out of line' when he had repeatedly ignored my requests for a meeting.

To all kids and parents, the safety of our children is a right as a human being.  And when this safety is threatened, it's much more than a 'big deal'.  I'm an expert because I lived it through my daughter.  I felt the fear, had the nightmares and cried every, single day.

Thanks for recognizing bullying as the 'big deal' that it is.

Elizabeth, 54, WV

I was bullied for many years, growing up.  Growing up, I was considered to be an ugly duckling.  Well, before blossoming, I was bullied and made fun of to the point where I ran home everyday after school, hysterically crying.  It has had such a profound effect on my life.  I now have a child who has special needs, and will live the rest of his life facing unfair challenges.  On top of the challenges that he already faces, one of my biggest fears is that he will be bullied just as I was...

Melissa, 35, AZ

i am so glad this website was made it has helped so many people i would like to thank the makers of the website

Ebony, 16, wa

I was bulled all through my primary school years and just as I thought I was free from all the emotional trauma I experienced bullying all over again. In year 4 of my primary school years I joined a new school and that is where all the bullying began. this all affected my schoolwork and my behavior. I started failing all my classes except for English because I believed English was my escape, I loved reading books and that was the only thing the learners in the school could not take from me. I feared going to school, I would cry every morning thinking about all the things the learners where going to say and do to me. I got through bullying through books, a bit of therapy and support from my mum.

Morgan, 17, South Africa

My whole life I have been different. My whole life I have been bullied. Every day I would go home wondering what's wrong with me, wondering that if I die if the pain go with it. 

But not anymore. I am sick and tired of being treated like I'm nothing because I'm not, sick and tired of wanting to just take a pill and die. No. I'm not killing myself because of these kids. I have told someone, and now I'm starting to find out who I really am! I like myself, and everyone should too!!! I'm taking a stand so kids like me don't have to face this!!!!

To every kid or teen who is suffering, there is a way to escape this, and it's not death!! All you have to do is tell an adult. Please.... I almost killed myself more than once, I know how it feels. Take a stand. You can make a difference. You ARE NOT what they are telling you you are. Tell someone, and you'll get through this. And then you start to figure out who you really are. 

To those who help victims of bullying, thank you so very much. No one did for me.... People who get bullied need a friend. Who knows? You might save a life. I dreamed of someone like you. To victims of bullying, you are a hero.

Livie, 11, Georgia

i got bullied when i was younger and know i'm getting bullied ans i don't have a lot of friends. when i was younger i was populer but then my friends changed and i became the target they call me names  and stuff. i don't get to be happy at school so i care for people like me  so if they call you name fight for you'r rights :)

francesca psaila, 14, malta

I've been bullied all my life. Even by my own family memeber they called me names they teased me they said so many things that i became afraid of them. I never understood why they were so mean to me. As i got older they kept on teasing me even more. Things got worse when i went school people started staring and me and laughing at me since i walked into school. People began calling me names i never understood why they were being so mean to me i remember going home after school and crying. After a while i began thinking i deserved everything they were calling me i was scared to go to school i didnt want people to keep making fun of me people dont realize how hurtfull all the things that they are saying             Bulling should stop they are destroying lifes and causeing alot of deaths i know that i will never be able to get over what people said to me But i dont want anyone else to suffer what im still stuffering                 

Mayra , 18, Chicago il

No one desverses to be bullied. Every one is the same inside.

Billy, 12, MO

I been bullied  by kids. We need to stop it now

Eric, 10, MMINNESOTA

As someone who has been bullied for years in school, I feel that no one deserves to be bullied. However, bullying is already a tradition in my current high school- Grade 11 tends to bully the new underclassmen via extracurricular activities, in which they claimed this bullying method as the preparation for uni life, while actually it makes the grade 10 feel pressured. Me and my friends has started an anti-bullying campaign anonymously and we're now ready to spread the message schoolwide.

Seth, 16, Indonesia

I have had a friend that was bullied everyday at school from maybe 1st grade to 4-5th. She would get stones thrown after her, she would be threatened by knife,or beaten up or called names.
Me and some other friends of mine went to some teachers to talk about it,but they would just ignore it. Or if someone did care, they would just say "stay away from that person that do this. Just ignore it then he would stop," etc..  We got our parents involved and they did so much to help us with this problem. They would go to the principal and ask if he could arrange so this person who bullied her could go to another school. But he couldn't do it. The principal said after alot of discussions "Just wait to you start in 8th grade,then everything will be alright."  But to wait 3-4 years to stop the bullying,it's just ridiculous. Bullying should never be ignored! 
Now when I think of it,I get so mad over that nobody could make her feel good about herself,she would just be ignored by the teachers. 
Now she's doing fine,but bullying really have had an effect on her. Who could blame her? 
Thanks to Demi Lovato for doing something about this. I'm from norway,so sry for bad english. :p

Linda, 15, Nw

I have been bullied for about 3 or 4 years. Im not sure why. i am like everyone else. i was on the cheerleading team. i had lots of friends. and one day everyome just turned. The worst feeling ever is coming up to your locker to see Horrible names Carved into it. I would never want someone to feel as low and horrible as i do. i want to help kids feel confident again. 

Abby, 16, Illinois

Everyday when I see this kid, he calls me pinoccho because i have a long nose. And he is a bully to everyone, and im taller than him so everyone excpects me to not be threatend by him, but it still hurts and i don't like to fight.

Serena, 11, CA

bullying affects peoples lives around the world and no one should feel less about themselves or insecure about themselves. everyone is beautiful and perfect in their own way.

Sara, 17, NY

bullying makes me sad

will, 12, illinois

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