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(I may mess up a little on words because as i'm writing this i am crying)I've always been known as the "Geek." I remember one time in 3rd grade I was walking home from school when one of my best friends was getting beat-up by a fifth grader. So i went and got my teacher to call the police. But before i came back they were both gone. The next day my friend stayed home. "The bully" saw me walking around the playgroung alone right after the bell rang to go home.  He  approached  me and slapped me across my face. He then said "Snitches get Stitches" and left. I was crying my eyes out in pain. I ran home and told my mom about it. She didn't believe me. Things like this went on until i was in in the 6th grade. Because no one would listen i tried to end my life and i would choke myself until i passed out. I also wouldn't eat so i would starve to death. But i never pulled through with it because i always thought about my three beautiful nephews. If i were to commit suicide, they wouldn't have an auntie to look up to. So, i decided to do online school to get away from the bullies. This never really helped because i would get abused online. I would be so emotional at some points of my life that i wouldn't do anything. That was until i heard about Demi Lovato's story. I thought that she was a person like me. And even though i never met her, she saved my life. Now i want to help! 

Avery, 13, Pueblo, Co.

My son was bullied for years until he had given up all hope, and was thinking of harming himself or others. This is unacceptable, our children should not have to endure this pain! 

Jennifer, 36, Arkansas

I've been there, and after these years, I have never forgotten what I went through as a kid! 
Going to and from school was miserable in itself, and just
always having had to be aware of my surroundings, and who was around, and constantly having to watch over my shoulder, as I walked.
In the classroom, lunch room, etc, I had to be careful as well! 
The teacher was not at all a help, as was none of the other students!
My dad went to the bullys houses and had words, but that only made matters worse!
It got to
the point that I played hookey one day, and went and hung out at the neighbors house! The school called and asked where I
was! Mom thought I'd gone to school! 
I knew she would have forced me to go, if she knew where I was! 
I came home at the regular time, and got in a lot of trouble, but to me, it was well worth it!  She never figured it out! 
I'd love to meet my bullies again, and ask em "why"?
I'm thankful to see something is FINALLY getting done with this! No kid should have to put up with this crap, and shame on those who stand back, watch, laugh, and egg em on!!
To all you kids that are getting bullied, there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Remember, it won't last forever!!
Please, ask a trusted adult for help, cause you don't have to
take it!! 
I'm a survivor! : )

Brian, 45, Tenino Washington

I've never been a victim, but unfortunately I was both observer and I regret not having done anything but now that I'm reporting on the subject I am determined to put a stop to all those around me and so slowly make a change because ''The End of Bullying Begins With Me'' 

Paola, 16, TX

I have been bullied all my life.. Being called fat, ugly, useless, dumb, and slut... Now i am still bullied but i am starting to learn how to handle it correctly.. Bullying literally ruined my life.. I was leaning towards cutting my wrists and thinking about suiciede everyday..  Now i have reliezed im not the only one and now im here reading all these stories and reliezing how good i have it... there are people with much worse stories than mine. but bullying is bullying and it should all be stopped ASAP. you are beautiful . remember that. follow your dreams and never give up. I have learned how to control my actions and love life and you should too.

Sophie , 13, louisiana

I care because, I feel everyone should be treated fairly. No one should be judged for not having a lot of money, not being in a certain sport, no one should be judged for anything. I want to take a stand and take bullying out of my school. Everyone should realize we are all people, just fighting different battles. 

Reagan , 14, Pennsylvania

People I know are always under attack and it hurts to just stand there and watch it happen.Plus i just am sick and tired of me getting bullied cause I help them.But I also get bullied cause what i wear and how i am diffrent and how i dont care what people think of me.I love my self but it still dose hurt and i go home and cry and scream in my pillows.So i have signed up and here i am fighting aginst it and i am here to help.

Brit, 12, sedalia,MO

Deliberately ignoring or leaving other students out is bullying. Teachers and Staff are just as respondsible for not being responsible for the protection of the children in their care during the school day .  As a child I was bullied and believe me you don't forget how it made you feel . Our Public Schools need to start Communicating and remembering the Golden Rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you ." dld

Concerned, 50, Nebraska

I used to live in South Dakota when I was 12, Now I moved to Virginia. When I got to my new school I thought I'd be fine and make some great friends, but as a few days passed, life got difficult. I made some friends but these three girls, who were popular but mean told some of my friends not to talk to me, and every lunch, nobody wanted to sit next to me, and when the girls pass me they threw stuff on me and called me names. And they would whisper to girls right in front of me and spread rumors about me constantly and I would be the last girl to be picked for partners or a team activities.
A girl spread a rumor once about me that if anyone touched or talked to me, They would become ugly, and the only person who supported me was my best friend Bella,  When it was home time they would shout after me "Look, its Danielle the Ogre, Run everyone before she gets you!"
and i would run home crying.
I begged my parents If I could get homeschooled but It was hard to find a teacher.
So we moved to Texas and I made good friends in my New School :)

Bullying isn't nice, It hurts people's feelings.
We should stand up

I wanna thank Demi Lovato and Teens Against Bullying for helping me.

Danielle, 16, TX

i was once a bully but then the coined flipped and i was the one getting bullied and i know how it feels and it hurts .

mia, 10, 85345 peoria AZ,

I was bullied a few times by one of my so called friend and didn't like it one bit.  So I am joining the movement  and going against bulling!  YOU SHOULD JOIN TO!  YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

dana , 11, Wi

Bullying is a HUGE issue at my school. Its everywere, and it bothers me alot. I speak up for a lot of kids, but it doesnt help. I want to do a speech or write an online article on our school website on the effects and causes of bullying and why it hurts. Cyber, verbal and physical. Its all wrong, ! 

Tiffany , 14, Indiana

I have younger brothers and sisters and I want them to be happy when they go to school and confident about themselves. I have not personally not been too harshly bullied. When I was, I was strong enough to stand up for myself, though it did really hurt on the inside. My brother has a social issue and he has a hard time communicating with people. He has been bullied and it has hurt me so much to know that. I want people to know the effects of bullying and how it can really hurt someone. 

Marie, 14, America

After reading about Phoebe Prince in Seventeen , I felt so disgusted with people . It seriously made me cry to hear something awful such as this . And the worst part is I can relate to Phoebe . I'm currently pregnant , going into my senior year and I am now judged and bullied by so many people . I go on this site , formspring and people comment and harrass me annonymously and tell me horrible things every single day . I used to cry myself to sleep and I even started cutting and hurting myself . But I have learned to stop all of that thanks to my amazing friends and supportive family . I wish Phoebe was told the things I have been told . I wish I knew her so I could give her a huge hug and tell her everything will be alright , and that their opinions don't matter . My mom tells me all the time that people only do those things simply because they are jealous and I will continue to believe so because it makes me feel so much better . At times I still cry , especially when I am alone . But knowing that I have the support I need gives me enough strength not to do anything stupid or horrible . All my love goes out to Phoebe and her family . I hope they stay strong . -Carleigh , 17 , WA

Carleigh, 17, WA

My name is Estefania and when I was 13 years old I was bullied. I was a little fat and wore glasses and short hair. There is nothing wrong with those things, but when you're bullied you feel like there is. At school, there was this one girl who would push me around and sometimes knock me down. Teachers would tell her to stop but she'd eventually start doing it again. Another girl would call me names and yell at me for everything. I was scared to be with her. I was lucky to get into therapy and become a better, healthier version of myself. Now I don't let people push me around and I want bullying to stop for everyone just like it stopped for me! 

Estefania, 18, Mexico

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