There are many ways children may show they do not want to be at school. They may say they want to be with their parent, have trouble completing schoolwork, or avoid spending time with their friends. They may also complain about feeling sick, cry, become angry or frustrated, or refuse to get on the school bus or walk into the classroom. If your child is struggling to go to school or attend full days, it is called school avoidance.

What should I do if my child doesn’t want to go to school?

• Talk to your child. They may be able to tell you the reasons they don’t want to go to school. For example, they may be getting bullied or need more help in the classroom.
• Make an appointment with their doctor. If your child says they are feeling sick, such as having stomachaches, you can make sure they don’t have a physical illness. If your child has a mental health diagnosis, talk to their doctor about any changes that may be needed in their treatment plan.
• Talk to school staff. Ask what changes they have noticed with your child or in their classroom.

How can I help my child return to school?

• Look for patterns. After talking with your child, school staff, and others, think about any patterns when your child is avoiding school.
• Find out if your child needs more help. Your child may be avoiding school because they have needs related to their disability that are not being met. Does your child’s Individualized Education Program (IEP) or 504 plan need to be updated? Does your child need to be reevaluated? Ask your case manager about scheduling a team meeting to discuss these options.
• Try to make your child go to school each day, even if it’s just for a short time. The longer your child stays away from school, the more difficult it may be for them to return.

Will my child or I get in trouble if they stay away from school?

Minnesota children must go to school from age 7 to 17. If your child is regularly missing school, you should ask about the district’s attendance policy. You may need a note from your child’s doctor if they are missing school because of their disability or mental health diagnosis. Having open communication with the school as soon as you notice your child is struggling to attend will help avoid problems.