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Miller Prom King Shows Royal Character
A GIFT FIT FOR A KING...
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Miller student gives friend title and much more.
Adam Chadwick was picked on by his classmates in elementary and middle school, and he had few friends. There was Tyrell, though. Tyrell Clay became his friend. He stood up for Adam. The teasing stopped. "He was the only person I could count on," Adam said. Through four years at Miller High School, while Tyrell excelled in sports and everybody seemingly knew him in the hallways he kept supporting Adam. When students teased Adam about his shaggy hair Tyrell was there to stop it. When Adam's mother died three years ago, Tyrell was there with empathy.
And when Adam looked heartbroken that he wasn't prom king Tyrell was there. Two weeks ago at American Bank Center, Tyrell was crowned king. But his buddy deserved the recognition more then him, he believed, and the 18 year old quickly gave up the title to Adam who was a king finalist. " I wanted it but I could see how disappointed he was when he didn't get it," Tyrell said. " It broke my heart to see him like that, so I knew what I had to do."
Adam persevered through years of torment, Tyrell said, and despite it , Adam was able excel in class, even taking advanced placement courses. "His accomplishments needed to be recognized that night instead of mine," he said. Adam,18, was shocked. "I don't know what I did to deserve that," he said. The teen said he almost skipped the night altogether. "I was afraid people were going to laugh at me if I won, but after Tyrell gave me the rouwn, every doubt I had about that nigh vanished," Adam said. "Seeing how my classmates accepted me changed my belief that they hated me. I would have regretted skipping it, knowing what I do now."
Adam didn’t have a place where he could be comfortable for many years, Tyrell said. "That can weigh a person down," he said. "I wanted to be there for him anyway I could." Tyrell said he hopes the positive recognition on prom night will help people get to know Adam. Many more will know about him after their story is featured on "CBS Evening News." "No one knows how smart he is," Tyrell said. "I can talk to him about any subject, and he knows everything about it."
Adam said Tyrell has taught him about giving people the benefit of the doubt. "I didn't know what a true friend was until I met Tyrell," Adam said. "He's taught me to give people second chances." Adam and Tyrell said they know they can rely on each other no matter what. "If he ever needs me," Adam said, "I'll be there for him. He can count on me."
By: Shared by Tyrone
Why Do We Hate?
Why do we hate?
The world is such a cruel heartless place.
How do I live, where do I go?
I'm spinning out of control!
Words break, as do bones.
Their hearts as cold as stone.
And some day I will die.
I will rise up and be free!
I am going to live and just be me.
I don't care and will not cry.
I will freely look my bully in the eye.
I will hold out my hand and say,
It doesn't have to be this way!
Come with me and be free.
Happiness is all that we will see!
Grab my hand and let's go save the world!
Thank you to Children's Cancer Center
A group of brave kids at the Childrens Cancer Center in New Jersey are raising awareness of bullying by working on a project to gather resources to share with others to get the word out about taking action against bullying.
They have used PACER's bullying prevention websites, plus they wanted to share this site, http://www.qualityansweringservice.com/resources/call-stop-bullying
They are working very hard and PACER would like to thank them, especially Jenny, for all that they are doing to help others. We appreciate them!
By: PACER Staff
Anthony DiNizo Bullying Project
Posted: 5/9/2013Anthony DiNizo Bullying Project
LINDSEY ERIN, “JUST AS I AM”
My school days … where do I start? My years in elementary school were my best years ever. I was an A-student and loved going to school. Sixth grade was pretty normal. However, it all started in 7th grade. That is when my nightmare began.
I became friends with a good bunch of people. However, one of them was a jealous person that would rebel when things didn't go her way. She would spread random rumors about me. She said I was ugly and fat. It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough which destroyed my self-esteem. She would post things about me on MySpace. The school logged onto my account and everything was deleted by her. The school labeled me as the trouble maker.
This boy and his friends would stare and laugh at me during lunch. One day I snapped and poured a slushy over his head. I learned that retaliation was NOT the answer. As a lesson to everyone in the 8th grade, the kickball tournament was cancelled. They used the slushy incident as an example. Everyone hated me. Even my friends were afraid to be with me because they would get picked on by the other kids. After that, I kept faking being sick so I didn’t have to go to school. I didn’t want to tell my parents the truth because I didn’t want them to go to school. That would cause too many problems for me.
In 9th grade, I became a rebel or otherwise known as a know-it-all that could do no wrong. I thought if I fit in with people, I wouldn’t be bullied. I got in trouble at school and didn’t care about anything, including my parents. I finally woke up and got away from that group. Well, it all started again.
In 10th grade, I fell in love with Disney music. The lyrics inspired me to become a better person. I always liked to sing so I asked my parents if I could take singing lessons. Life couldn’t get any better … I thought.
They made fun of the clothes I wore, the music I listened to and the makeup I wore. They were making my life miserable. I would get prank calls at my house at all hours of the night.
I then met Brianna. She helped me through a lot. She was a true friend that I could trust with everything. I met her friends who were so welcoming of me. They didn’t judge me or try to make me be someone other than myself. They accepted me just as I am!
Now it was getting close to going to 12th grade. My parents enrolled me in Cyber School. Life was so much better for me. June 2011, I graduated. It was the greatest feeling when I accepted my diploma. I held my head high. Now I was ready to work towards my dreams of being a singer.
I met an awesome songwriter, Jerry Duncan. He had me listen to some songs and there was one that caught my attention, "Just As I Am". It talks about self-confidence and accepting yourself for who you are. I could relate to the song so much. It had a powerful message.
It took all the trials and tribulations of my life to realize how much bullying there is in this world. I know exactly what people are going through. If it wasn't for music, I wouldn't be the person I am today. Music changed my life. I never thought that I would be opening for National Country Acts on grandstands at fairs or going to Nashville to record a CD. But because I pushed forward each and every day, I am finally achieving those goals. I have come so far within the past 8 years. No matter how many times people push you down, always get right back up and move forward. We are all beautiful just the way that God made us. Never let the people hurt you in life get in the way of your dreams. I am living my dream” Just As I Am”.
By: Lindsey Erin
I am an adult who still suffers from being bullied for most of my youth.
I was born to a very poor family & was abused by my father for years. I was sent to school dirty, unkept, & hungry most days. I experienced the taunts & teasing not only for the poor hygiene, but also my looks. I have plump lips, a larger nose, & am very tall for a girl. The boys in my hometown called me names daily & I had no friends!
I also went hungry due to the fact my small high school made the kids who received free/reduced lunch stand in a different line from others to obtain our lunch tickets(also a different color from the others). I had so much humiliation already that I chose not to eat to avoid even more teasing. I still suffer from eating disorders & have a poor realtionship with food due to the bad choices made by our HS with the lunch program.
I eventually left my hometown & blossomed into an attractive lady. I am still sensitive to criticism from others, have low self esteem, & overly protect my daughters. I still get angry because not one adult stepped up to help me. I tell my girls to always behave warmly to others. never tease, & always play with those who are being alienated.
Bullying ruins lives & its so important to look @ those who are bullyed to see what the underlying issues might be....It can save a life!
I've been bullied all throughout school; from elementary school to even college. I was born with Neurofibromatosis, which made me have a mild speech impediment, not being able to do as well in PE class, and I also had a larger head than other kids. I was mocked & teased me for how I talked, ran, and even for my head. Starting from a young age, I didn't have many friends in school at all. I would even try befriending new kids the day they came to the school, but within a day or two, bullies would jump in and tell them lies about me which made them not want to be my friend anymore. Sometimes bullies would purposely hide my bag or shoes/boots. Once someone even stole my bike helmet.
Entering high school, I lost several of my friends for no reason at all; including friends I had known since I was about 4 or 5 years old. I wasn't popular at all, even though I never did anything wrong to anyone, and I would volunteer in the community a lot; such as at the animal shelter and the church's summer program for kids. My "friends" would let their "popularity" get to them and would simply not want to be associated with me. Even in high school I would try befriending new students, but it would end up not working out. I would even be talking to people who I thought were my friends, and someone would come up to them and literally say "You're friends with Jeremy?! You're not going to get a girl if you stay friends with him you know." My "friends" in those cases wouldn't defend me. So I was betrayed multiple times; by both guys and girls. Because of all of this, I became extremely shy. I was so shy I would be too afraid to do anything if a chance at a potential girlfriend came my way. One girl in grade 10 even tried to ask me out. When she asked me "Are you doing anything this weekend?", I shrugged on instinct. She knew I kind of liked her, and before that day I had a suspicion she liked me but no one else seemed to have picked up on it. I didn't want to hurt her and see people turn on her then have her feel what I've had to put up with.
In college I thought it would all end; I was wrong. For a business project I was stuck with two guys that didn't want to pull their own weight. I later found out one convinced the other not to do anything for it just so *I* would have a very bad mark on it. I tried talking to the instructor about it, but she actually didn't do anything about it. I failed the course because of the project, and I had to take some of my summer break to retake it, but luckily with a different teacher and much different class.
To end my story, I would just like to say you are never alone. Please don't hesitate to reach out if you're being bullied. The bullies win when the victims stay silent. You are not weak if you tell someone; the act of bullying of any kind is weak.
Don't Lose Yourself
Posted: 4/26/2013Bullying is overrated! I'm saying this because I've been in a situation before. It all started in 5th grade with a girl who was new in my school. She seemed really nice, and the two of us became friends. She then met my best friend, and for some reason, she didn't like her. She began calling her a drama queen, witch, and other mean things. My best friend then started to get really unpositive and she wasn't defending herself as much as she did before. Me, on the other hand? I was a coward; I didn't do anything. A few weeks later, the new girl sent me an e-mail saying that my best friend should shoot herself. I was worried for her safety, and I forwarded her the e-mail. The next day, us three were sent to the prinicipal, and luckily, we got the problem solved. After we got out, the new friend shouted at me that I betrayed her and that she thought I was her best friend. I yelled back at her that she wasn't my friend; she was a bully. I told her that if she ever wanted a friend, she was going to have to be one herself first. I finished by telling her that I didn't ever want to see her face again. She looked at me with tears in her eyes, and then ran off. My best friend and are now closer then ever, and the new girl got expelled from school. I'm still ashamed of myself that I was a bystander; now I know to stick up for the right. If you are a bystander, don't be. You'll lose a friend (Which I almost did), and you'll also lose yourself in the process. STOP BULLYING!
Twelve-year-old Charleigh first performed Stand, an original bullying prevention song, at her local talent show. After receiving many requests for the track, She wanted to share the song in a meaningful way, so Charleigh created an initiative called willUstand. She invited youth from all over the US and abroad to participate in a crowd sourced music video for the song.
She encouraged kids to submit a 5-10 second clip that symbolized the key messages within the song and with a goal to create a powerful mashup that we hoped would inspire social change.
willUstand launched March 2013.
When Someone Tells You That You've Changed
I've always thought I fit in. I sort of still do. I've always have had friends. If you didn't know me, you'd think of me as a spoiled teacher's pet, that everyone loves. No. That's not it. I have pimples overflowing my face. It's hard to walk around certain boys now. A boy whose younger than me walks to me everyday asking me why I have so many pimples. I'm always so embarrassed to tell an adult because he's younger than me. And a boy. It gets really annoying, also because each time somebody teases me, my friends aren't there. I have no idea if they would stand up. Hopefully they would. They've told me they've been bullied as well. And we are all teachers pets, and have lots of friends.
But sometimes they aren't my friends. They talk about innapropriate subjects that only adults take seriously. And they laugh. I don't. They josh around to each other thinking its funny. And all of us are religious. I realized one of my friends was going through the same problem. She hasn't told face to face, but each time an innapropriate concept appears, she is dead silent. Like me.
We both want to have friends, but those? I really don't know. I wish I could just be friends with the girl who knows what I'm going through, but it would be hard telling my mom this kind of stuff. My mom knows the innapropriate people. She thinks of them as friends. She knows their moms. It's scary. I'm always scared one day, I won't fit in, because I am not like them.
Luckily, I was accepted to an IB program and I'll won't have to deal with them for much longer. But I will have faith. Although I am scared, I will not back down. No matter how cowardly I seem, it's right. It's me. It's being me. 'When someone tells you that you've changed, that just means you're not like them anymore.'
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