How do I support my child’s mental health or challenging behaviors at home, in school, and in the community?
How do I talk to my child about their mental health?
First, ask your child if it is a good time to talk. They may want to talk immediately or wait until there are fewer distractions. Allow them to come to you when they’re ready. When having a conversation, try to listen without interrupting them. They may prefer to write their feelings in a letter to you instead. Remain calm and patient during the conversation. Make sure to validate their feelings and let them know you’re there to support them.
How do I address challenging behaviors at home?
When young children express challenging behaviors, they are likely trying to tell you something they can’t say with words. Consider what the reason for the behavior may be and what may affect it. Your child’s developmental stage, temperament, or disability can impact their behavior. Strategies to encourage positive behaviors include:
- Setting clear expectations with structure and consistency
- Reinforcing and naming positive behaviors
- Giving your child a sense of control by offering them choices
- Modeling positive behaviors
- Supporting your child and reminding them that you are there to work through big feelings together
How can my child’s school help support their mental health?
Check in with the school counselor or your child’s Individualized Education Program (IEP) team if they have one. Accommodations and modifications that can be added to your child’s school day include:
- Taking breaks when needed
- Working on identifying emotions, triggers, and coping skills
- Finding a safe person your child can check in with when they need to process feelings
How do I address school avoidance?
For some children with mental health disorders, school can become overwhelming. They may frequently struggle to be at school or stay engaged in classroom activities. Some causes of school avoidance may be bullying, social issues, or overstimulation. When school avoidance impacts your child’s attendance or classroom participation, it is helpful to create a plan with school staff. Plans can include information about your child’s needs and how best to help them get back to school. It may be helpful to develop a plan using a four-step process:
- Define the school avoidance behaviors
- Discuss the goals you’re hoping to achieve
- Discuss how the goals will be reached
- Meet again and change the plan if needed
For crisis support: Call, text, or chat 988, the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or text HOME to 741741.
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