Take action immediately

Children need to understand the impact their behavior has on others and realize the hurt they are causing. With adult guidance, redirecting bullying behavior toward an understanding of differences, as well as the practices of kindness and inclusion, are good strategies for reshaping a child’s behavior.

Explore reasons for the behavior

Find out why your child is behaving in a manner that is harmful to others through an open, nonjudgmental discussion.

Provide clear and consistent consequences for bullying

Be specific about what will happen if the bullying continues. Try to find meaningful consequences that fit the situation, such as community service that benefits everyone involved.

Teach by example

Help your child learn different ways to resolve conflict and deal with feelings of anger, insecurity, or frustration. Teach and reward appropriate behavior.

Provide positive feedback

When your child handles conflict well, shows compassion for others, or finds a positive way to deal with feelings, give them praise and recognition. Positive reinforcement can help improve behavior and is usually more effective than punishment.